Monday, May 31, 2010

A Day of Remembrance ~ Memorial Day 2010

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
        ~From a headstone in Ireland

Spirit, that made those heroes dare
To die, and leave their children free,
Bid Time and Nature gently spare
The shaft we raise to them and thee.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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The photos in the above collage were taken today the 31st of May 2010 at the El Camino Memorial Park where my Oma was recently buried (26 May 2010). 

Unfortunately, we know too many who are buried there. Terry Bennett, my husbands partner on the SDPD (lower right photo), who was killed while on duty on the 26th of June 2003.  Our beloved brother-in-law, Keith Tiffany, who was also killed while on duty (SDPD)  in 1981.  

Center photo: The Veteran's Memorial
Photo to the left, plaque reads: Capt. C.W. 'Nick' Carter Memorial
Dedicated by O.K. Ingram Ship
V.F.W. 1774
November 11, 1967

Photo right and center, bares the names of our fallen officers, Terry's was the last to be etched on that stone.

Visited Oma's gravesite (upper left hand corner).

Our family is remembering on this day, the many we have lost as they served our country to keep our freedom alive...our fellow police officers we have lost while they were serving to protect us. You will always be in our hearts.


Friday, May 28, 2010

Webex, Thomas, and Finding Hans ~

I want to share a very unique and wonderful genealogy research session that Thomas MacEntee over at High-Definition Genealogy, helped mom and I with by way of Webex and Skype.

As you know, my grandmother, Liselotte Haf (1913 ~ 2010) of 96 years passed away on the 5th of April 2010. She never knew who her father was. The story is that my great grandmother, Margarete Kaiser (1888 ~ 1972), met a man in Zurich while working there. Margarete Kaiser dated this man for a bit and then became pregnant. When Margarete told him (Hans) that she was pregnant with his child, he disappeared.

No one in our family knew his name or whereabouts (so we thought). When I started my genealogy journey, I pretty much figured I would never know that part of my family and everything would stop with my Oma!

When mom flew back to Germany to handle the funeral and cremation arrangements for my Oma, she found a genealogy goldmine amongst Oma’s belongings . . . lucky for me! Some of the documents are incredible but you can imagine my excitement, surprise, and joy when mom and I came across a document that held my Oma’s natural father’s name: Hans Bacher!!! I was doing the genealogy happy dance all over the place. This particular document is a court child support order. Our Margarete, my great grandmother was attempting to hold Hans responsible. When officials attempted to serve him, Hans was nowhere to be found.

I immediately started to do a search on I did find a few hits but was unable to access them due to the fact that I only have the U.S. subscription with Ancestry, not the World Deluxe membership. Mom wanted to get me a months worth…I said, “no, let me see what I can do on the Internet and will ask a few genealogy friends". I emailed Thomas asking for suggestions. Right away, Thomas, as Thomas always is, was right there to help and I cannot thank him enough. Thomas suggested hosting a “virtual genealogy research session.” Here’s what we did:

  • Thomas used Webex to host a virtual genealogy research session, where he could pull up Ancestry and other resources on his computer and have mom and I follow along! It was amazing. Webex not only allowed Thomas do a presentation, but also allowed us to see each other on web cams. 

  • Rather than use Webex’s audio which can be expensive depending upon the type of subscription, we used Skype so we could both talk about what we were seeing on screen.

  • One of the benefits of this technology, since Thomas and I are not native German speakers, is that Mom was able to translate the text as we searched. Had we done this alone, we wouldn’t know if we were finding the correct records. Mom and I would ask Thomas to enlarge records and determine if they were valuable in trying to find the parents of Hans Bacher, my Oma’s father.

  • Not only did Thomas capture each of the records as an image, but he also maintained a research log during the two-hour period so we could build proper source citations later. We also saved links to our finds in case we ever had to revisit them for more information. I knew and understood the value and how important it is to cite and source, and it is something I truly struggle with but I was amazed at how much I learned from Thomas and doing this as we went. I was able to get a better sense of “how to” and even more so, how very critical it is to cite and source your research always. A spreadsheet of this sort was an incredible way to stay organized and cite each and every detail needed to properly source your research. 

While we can’t be certain, it appears that the Hans Bacher listed on the child support document could be the same Hans Bucher who lived in the Chicago, Illinois area and died in 1967. In order to prove this conclusively, we have decided to order Hans’ death certificate from Cook County hoping it could give us more clues as to his life in Germany and also where he may have disappeared.
What I will never know is: did my Oma know this and not tell us? Well Oma…I am going to find your father, my great grandfather!

Mom and I want to send a huge thanks to Thomas. What I learned in that two-hour session will never be forgotten . . . it was fun and exciting. He tells me that these are the types of services he is developing at his new company High-Definition Genealogy - and I can see how this type of “genealogical training” with the latest technology would be valuable to the community. Thomas is an amazing genealogist, always there to help and guide all of us…thank you Thomas for all you do for us.


Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Liselotte "Oma" Haf 1913 ~ 2010 We Celebrate You Today and Always ~

The services for Liselotte "Oma" Haf are being held today the 26th of May 2010 at the El Camino Memorial Park here in San Diego at 1:00 P.M.  Deacon Bob Ekhamel officiating.

Oma was born  on the 19th of December 1913 and passed away in Augsburg, Germany,  on the 5th of April 2010.  Our family will be celebrating her life of 96 years and keeping her memory alive always. Oma was preceded in death by her husband, my grandfather, Adalbert Haf (1907 - 1968) and her two twin sons, my uncles, Helmut Haf (1940 - 1994) and Adalbert Haf (1940 - 2004). 
Her service will be a small Urn burial...but huge in our hearts.
Oma lived a long and fulfilling life...she will be so missed, we love you Oma. 

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Mom returned from Germany on April 15th, 2010 after having a beautiful mass and service for Oma in the Catholic Church I was baptized in, St. George's Church in Augsburg, Germany, where the Mozart Family had been connected for a long time.

Oma was cremated in Germany, her ashes were finally received last week by the El Camino Memorial Funeral home...Oma is finally home and at her final resting place, very close to me where we can spend as much time with her as we would like.  Oma had visited us here in the U.S. many times and loved it here. Her wishes were that this be where she would rest in peace...

I am sending out a huge Thank you to all of  my wonderful genea-friends, for your kinds words, love and are the best.


Wednesday, May 12, 2010

A Poem and a Message ~

My daughter Lacie sent this to me via Facebook while she was in class at school today. What a wonderful poem and even more wonderful that she sent it to me knowing what family history means to me...thank you Lacie...I love you too.

Lacie Ewing: Today in class my teacher said: memory is blood, you are not born with a clean slate but you carry all the memories of your ancestors...

...and then we read this poem:

~ Remember ~

Remember the sky that you were born under,
Know each of the stars stories
Remember the moon, know who she is.

Remember the suns birth at dawn, that she is the strongest point of time. Remember sun down and the giving away to night.

Remember your birth, how your mother struggled to give you form and breath. You are evidence of her life, and her mothers, and hers.
Remember your father. He is your life, also.

Remember the earth whose skin you are: red earth, black earth, yellow earth, white earth, brown earth, we are earth.

Remember the plants, trees, animal life who all have their tribes, their families, their histories too. Talk to them, listen to them. They are alive poems.

Remember the wind. Remember her voice. She knows the origin of the universe.

Remember you are all people and all people are you.

Remember you are this universe and this universe is you.

Remember all is in motion, is growing, is you.

Remember language comes from this.

Remember the dance language is, that life is.


~ Author:  Joy Harjo

I thought you would like that. Love you :) Lacie


Monday, May 10, 2010

Friend of Friends ~ Honoring the Slaves of the Beal Ijames Plantation ~ Part 2 of the 2nd Generation

I have been away for a bit, my grandmother "Oma" passed away on April 5th, 2010 and the death of several close friends: my neighbor Kevin and a very close friend, Carmen. It's been a very sad time for our family this past month. Hopefully, I will be able to get back on track and post the names of the slaves in our family history. I left off with the first part of the 2nd Generation, below, is part two of the 2nd Generation.

In my family history I have the names of the slaves that were on my 5th great grandfather, Beal IJAMES plantation. I will be posting five generations of the descendants of: John Wesley IJAMES, a slave on the Beal IJAMES plantation. Being that there is quite a bit of information, I have decided that each generation will be an individual post and I will attempt to post at least once to twice a week . The information I have will be posted exactly as I had received it. I feel it is extremely important to get what information I have on the slaves in my family history out there in hopes to helping another.

I want it to be known that I am not the researcher of this information. My dear friend Roberta and her husband Guy who I am a very distant cousin to, has spent the last 40 years researching the IJAMES family history. Any and all credit goes to this wonderful lady who spent hours, days, years compiling our family's history. Roberta has given me a gift of a lifetime, one I have no idea or way of thanking her properly for. Without Roberta's help and support, I would not have the information I am about to give to you or the information on my direct IJAMES/EIMES line. Thank you Roberta, you are amazing.

My 5th great grandfather Beal IJAMES 08 February 1767 ~ 06 July 1855, was a slave master and owner of the Beal IJAMES Plantation, located in Mocksville, North Carolina.

It is said that Beal IJAMES did not believe in selling his slaves and making sure that those slaves at the IJAMES Plantation had a good life. I am so glad for that. Reading this, I was relieved and felt that my Beal IJAMES was a decent man.

The Slaves and their descendants of the Beal IJAMES Plantation

(Generation No. 2, 3, 4, 5 are quite large, for this reason, I will be doing several posts on each generation.)

                                                    ~ Generation No. 2 continued ~

4.  ROBERTIJAMES (JOHN WESLEY 2 IJAMES**, UNKNOWN IJAMES) was born May 1854 in North Carolina. He married MARY E. MAXWELL Abt. 1888 in North Carolina. She was born May 1854 in North Carolina.

Census #12: 02 Jun 1900, Robert May 1854; Mary E. May 1854; Allic B. Apr 1887; Rufus A. Apr 1887; William J. Sept 1890, (Source: US Federal Census, 1900 Census Scotch Irish, Rowan Co., North Carolina, Dwel/Fam 191/192 [Transcriber of census spelled name as 'squmes.'].)
Census: #13: 15 Apr 1910, Robert 57; Mary 57 [Second marriage for both], Alice & Rufus both 21; William J. 18 and Rosa Jn 11 granddaughter (Source: U.S. Federal Census, 1910 Census Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina, Dwel/fam 9/9.)

Census #12: 02 Jun 1900, Indicates she had ten children with 9 living

Marriage Abt. 1888, North Carolina

                  i.  ALICE B. 4 IJAMES, b. Apr 1887, North Carolina; d. 13 Dec 1916, Cooleemee, Jerusalem
                      Twp., Davie Co., North Carolina (Source: North Carolina Data Collection 1908-2004, Reg.
                      Dist 30-5376. Reg's No. 52, File 26.); m. UNKNOWN SPOUSE.
                 ii.   RUFUS A. IJAMES, b. Apr 1887, North Carolina; d. 14 Oct 1920, Davie Co., North
                      Carolina Death Records, Records 1908-1967 - NC State Archives.).
                iii.  WILLLIAM J. IJAMES, b. Sep 1890, North Carolina; m. IDA MAE NOBLE; b. 17 Oct
                      1899, Davie Co., North Carolina; d. 16 Mar 1968, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina
                      (Source: North Carolina Death collection 1908-1996, Reg. Dist. 30-60; Reg's No. 38;
                       File 8874.)
                iv.   ROSA M. IJAMES, b. Abt. 1899, North Carolina; d. Grand daughter.

    in North Carolina. She married TAYLOR GRAY 07 Jul 1872.

Marriage: 07 Jul 1872

                 i.  MAGGIE4 GRAY, b. Abt. 1883, North Carolina; d. 08 Oct 1939, Thomasville, Davidson
                    Co., North Carolina (Source: North Carolina Death collection 1908-1996, Reg. Dist. 29-80;
                    Reg's. No. 81 File 49.); m. JAMES LOOP
                   More About MAGGIE GRAY:
                   Burial: 10 Oct 1939, Thomasville, Davidson Co., North Carolina

6. WESLEY D.3 IJAMES (JOHN WESLEY2 IJAMES**, UNKNOWN1 IJAMES) was born Oct 1856 in North Carolina (Source: U.S. Federal Census, 1910 Census Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina, 
Dwel/fam 282/282.). He married (1) ALICE 'IJAMES' Bef. 1886. He married (2) LOUISA LONITA CLARK (Source: North Carolina Records, North Carolina Delayed Birth Index, Her name is on the delayed birth record for her son William Andrew Ijames. Vol. D10, page 222.) Bef. 1894 in North Carolina. She was born May 1876 in North Carolina.

Census #13: 1910, He indicates that this is his 2nd marriage - he married at age 16. This is Louisa's first marriage and she married at 16.
Census #14: Bet. 07 - 07 Jun 1920, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina -

Marriage: Bef. 1886

Marriage: Bef. 1894, North Carolina

Children of WESLEY IJAMES  and ALICE 'IJAMES' are:
                  i.   SILLIA4 LILLIE IJAMES, b. Sep 1886, North Carolina
14.            ii.   RUFUS W. IJAMES, b. 24 Dec 1887, North Carolina; d. 18 Apr 1935, Sampson,
                      North Carolina.
                iii.   JOSEPHINE IJAMES, b. Mar 1889, Davie Co., North Carolina; d. 17 Nov 1961,
                      Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina (Source: North Carolina Death collection 1908 -
                      1996, Reg. Dist. 30-00; Reg's. file 112; Cert. 31563.) m. JOSEPH WILSON.

                      More About JOSEPHINE IJAMES:
                      Burial: 20 Nov 1961, St. John's Methodist Cem., Mocksville, N.C.
                      Fact #1: Her death certificate gives the mother's name as Mary Jane 'Ijames'

15.           iv.   JAMES W.4 IJAMES, b. 25 Dec 1895, Davie Co., North Carolina; d. 22 Mar 1963,
                      Goldsboro, Wayne Co., North Carolina
16.            v.   PASY 'PANSY' A. IJAMES, b. Oct 1896, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina; d. 30
                      1940, Winston-Salem, Forsyth Co., North Carolina.
17.           vi.   RAYMOND WILLIAM IJAMES, b. Dec 1900, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina;
                      d. 31 Mar 1952, Winston-Salem, Forsyth Co., North Carolina.
               vii.   ODESSA IJAMES, b. Bet. 1901 - 1903, North Carolina.
              viii.    BELLE IJAMES, b. Bet. 1903 - 1906, North Carolina.
               xi.    CARA IJAMES, b. Bet. 1905 - 1908, North Carolina.
                x.    PAULINE IJAMES, b. Abt. 1907, North Carolina.
               xi.    JASPER IJAMES, b. Abt. 1910, North Carolina.
               xii.    GOLA MAE IJAMES, b. 1911, North Carolina.
              xiii.    NINA IJAMES, b. Abt. 1913, North Carolina.
              xiv.    WILLIAM ANDREW IJAMES, b. 12 Mar 1913, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina
                      (Source: North Carolina Records, North Carolina Delayed Birth Index, Vol D-10 page 222.);
                      d. 19 Aug 1971, Winston-Salem, Forsyth Co., North Carolina (Source: North Carolina
                      Death collection 1908-1996, Reg. Dist. 1339; cert. 27548.) m. UNKNOWN.

                      More About WILLIAM ANDREW IJAMES:
                      Burial: 24 Aug 1971, Evergreen Cem. Winston-Salem, North Carolina

              xv.    LUTHER M. IJAMES, b. 02 Feb 1916, Davie Co., North Carolina.
             xvi.    CLARA L. IJAMES, b. Abt. 1918, North Carolina.

in North Carolina. He married MAUDE NICHOLS in North Carolina. She was born Abt. 1880 in North

Census #13: 16 Apr 1910, Elisha 47 [ 1st marriage] Maud 29 [ 2nd marriage] - John W. 9; Annie M. 2,  Van L. 5, Lela 4 and Willie 1-6/12 (Source: U.S. Federal Census, 1910 Census Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina, Dwel/Fam 56/55.).

Marriage: North Carolina

                  i.      JOHN WESLEY4 IJAMES, b. 07 Apr 1900, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina
                          (Source: World War 1 Draft Registration Card.); d. 27 Oct 1976, Winston-Salem, Forsyth
                          Co., North Carolina (Source: North Carolina Death Records, Collection 1908-1996 His
                          wife predeceased him.); m. LOSSIE HUTCHINSON CLINKSCALE; b. 05 Jun 1903,
                          Abbeville Co., South Carolina; d. 15 Jan 1963, Winston-Salem, Forsyth Co., North
                          Carolina (Source: North Carolina Death colleciton 1908-1996, Reg. Dist. 34-95; Reg's
                          No. 98; File 1169.).

                          More About JOHN WESLEY IJAMES:
                          Military: Bet. 1917 - 1918, WW 1 Draft Registration Card gives DOB and father's name
                          as Elizha Ijames (Source: World War 1 Draft Registration Card, # 7826 Order
                          No. A-181.)

                          More About LOSSIE HUTCHINSON CLINKSCALE:
                          Burial: 21 Jan 1963, Evergreen Cemetery, Winston-Salem, Forsyth Co., N.C.
                ii.       ANNIE MAY IJAMES, b. Abt. 1903, North Carolina.
               iii.       VAN LINDSAY IJAMES, b. Abt. 1905, North Carolina; d. 15 Jun 1923,  Forsyth Co.,
                          North Carolina (Source: North Carolina Death Records, 700-225-.).

                          More About VAN LINDSEY IJAMES:
                          Fact #1: 15 Jun 1923, He was age 18 at time of death.

                iv.       LELA IJAMES, b. 31 Aug 1906, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina; d. 03 Apr
                          1930, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina (Source: North Carolina Data Collection
                          1908-2004, Reg's No. 33 10 File 33.); m. SAM HYAT.

                          More About LELA IJAMES:
                          Burial: 04 Apr 1930, Presbyterian cemetery, North Carolina
                          Cause of Death: Pulmonary Tuberculosis

                 v.      LORENA IJAMES, b. Abt. 1907, North Carolina.
                iv.      WILLIAM T. 'WILLIE' IJAMES, b. Jun 1908, North Carolina; d. 28 Oct 1929,
                          Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina ( Source: North Carolina Death collection

                          More About WILLIAM T. 'WILLIE' IJAMES:
                          Burial: 29 Oct 1929, Presbyterian Church Cem., Davie Co., N.C.

               vii.       PEARLIE IJAMES, b. 09 May 1911, Davie Co., North Carolina; d. 29 Aug 1931,
                          Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina (Source: North Carolina Death Records, Reg. Dist.
                          302207; File No. 23; No. 451.).

                          More About PEARLIE IJAMES:
                          Burial: 30 Aug 1931, Presbyterian Cemetery, N.C.
                          Cause of Death: Tuberculosis

18.         viii.       JOSEPH WILLIAM IJAMES, b. 01 Oct 1913, Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina;
                          d. 02 Jul 1979, Davie Co., North Carolina.

in North Carolina. He married ANGIE DAULTON, daughter of UNKNOWN DAULTON and HARRIET 'DAULTON'.  She was born Abt. 1875 in North Carolina.

Census #15 04 Apr 1930, William G. 65; Angie 55; David 21; Samuel & Daniel 17; James 14; Bruce 30 a'
Widower; Flossie 8, granddaughter & Harriet Daulton 75-Mother-in-law (Source: U.S. Census, 1930
Census Bethany, Iredell Co., North Carolina, Dwel/Fam 54/54.)
Comment 1: 04 Apr 1930, He was age 27 when married and Angie was 19 [ 1930 Census]

19.            i.     BRUCE4 IJAMES, b. Abt. 1900, North Carolina
                ii.     DAVID IJAMES, b. Abt. 1909 North Carolina.
               iii.     DANIEL IJAMES, b. Abt. 1913, North Carolina.
20.          iv.    SAMUEL B. IJAMES, b. Abt. 1913, North Carolina.
               v.     JAMES IJAMES, b. Abt. 1916, North Carolina.

9.  JOHN F.3 IJAMES (JOHN WESLEY2 IJAMES**, UNKNOWN 1 IJAMES) was born 18 Jan 1878 in
North Carolina (Source: World War 1 Draft Registration Card.). He married MELLIA 'IJAMES'. She was
born Abt. 1874 in North Carolina.

More About JOHN F. IJAMES:
Census #14: Bet. 14-15 Jan 1920, John age 42 [1881]; Mellia age 46; Mary age 18, Roosevelt 15; Carriner age 13; Milton 10; Evola 8; Edwin 6; Alton 4 & Delphine 3
Census #15: 15 Apr 1930, John age 49 [1881]: J.C. age 32; Jonas age 22; Wash age 22; Evellee age 18,
Edwin age 17, Alton age 16 & Delphine age 15. (Source: U.S. Federal Census, 1930 Census Mocksville, Davie Co., North Carolina, His wife is deceased. Children given nicknames! J.C. = John Calvin; Wash =
Wesley Roosevelt; Evelle = Evola. Dwel/Fam 51/53.).

Children of JOHN IJAMES and MELLIA 'IJAMES' are:
                  i.     ROMEY4 IJAMES, b. Abt. 1896, North Carolina.
21.            ii.     JOHN CALVIN IJAMES, b. Abt. 1900, Davie Co., North Carolina.
                iii.     MARY A. IJAMES, b. Abt. 1902, North Carolina.
22.           iv.     WESLEY ROOSEVELT IJAMES, b. 21 Dec 1903, North Carolina; d. 04 Oct 1987,
                         Davie Co., North Carolina.
                 v.     CORRINIE IJAMES, b. Abt. 1907, North Carolina.
                iv.     CORNELILLETH IJAMES, b. Abt. 1910, North Carolina.
               vii.      MILTON IJAMES, b. Abt. 1910, North Carolina.
              viii.      EVOLA IJAMES, b. Abt. 1912, North Carolina.
                ix.     ALTON IJAMES, b. Abt. 1913, North Carolina.
                 x.     EDWIN IJAMES, b. Abt. 1914, North Carolina.
                xi.     DELPHANE IJAMES, b. Abt. 1917, North Carolina.

Reseacher and source: Roberta Iiames of Ohio
Dorothy Graham: The second great granddaughter of Brook Ijames

To be continued with Generation No. 3 in next post of "Friend of Friends".        

Friday, May 7, 2010

Happy Mother's Day ~

Everything I learned about love, I learned from my Mother ~
                                         ~  Marita Golden

 ~ Happy Mother's Day to my very special Mom and Oma ~

                   Wishing all Mom's a Happy Mother's Day!                             
   "Youth fades; love droops, the leaves of friendship fall;
 A mother’s secret hope out lives them all"

                  ~ by Oliver Wendell Holmes: A Mother’s Secret

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  You will always be loved and remembered ~
Lieselotte "Oma" Haf
19 Dec 1913 ~ 5 April 2010

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The background photo are of Hydrangea's I have growing along the front walkway of my home, one of my favorite flowers.


Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Tombstone Tuesday ~ Robert Newton Eimes

Robert Newton Eimes born 06 June 1898 Davies Co., Owensboro, Kentucky died 25 August 1979 Louisville, Kentucky

My grandfather Robert, was laid to rest in the Camp Nelson National Cemetery in Nicholasville, Kentucky.

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The above photo is of my Aunt Virginia "Ginnie" (daughter of my grandfather, Robert) and myself (left) on my first genealogy trip to Kentucky, via our  motorhome in April of 2008. On that day, we traveled from Louisville to Cloverport, Owensboro and Nicholasville, then back to Louisville...where we gathered so many genealogical treasures and memories.